Angry Management

Salam,

The Fence

There once was a little boy who had a bad temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the fence. The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks as he learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily, gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence.

Finally the day came when the boy didn’t lose his temper at all. He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper. The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone.

The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence. He said “you have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one.” You can put a knife in a man and draw it out. It won’t matter how many times you say I’m sorry, the wound is still there. Make sure you control your temper the next time you are tempted to say something you will regret later.


Mesti korang pernah dengar cerita di atas, samada dalam bahasa Malaysia, English atau lain-lain bahasa. Ianya adalah satu cerita dengan isu moral, MARAH dan KESANnya.

Dalam Islam ada menggariskan beberapa tips yang boleh diikuti ketika marah. Ini untuk memastikan kita tidak tercakap atau terbuat sesuatu perkara yang BODOH sehingga memudaratkan diri kita dan orang sekeliling kita. Antaranya,

1. Ubah Posisi 
    Sabda Rasulullah S.A.W "Apabila salah seorang daripada kamu marah, dan ketika itu dia dalam 
    keadaan berdiri, maka hendaklah dia duduk. Kerana hal itu akan menghilangkan marahnya. 
    Dan kalau tidak, maka hendaklah ia berbaring" - Riwayat Muslim

2. Ambil wudhuk
    "Marah itu datangnya dari syaitan dan syaitan diciptakan daripada api, sedangkan api itu 
    hanya dipadamkan dengan air. Oleh itu apabila salah seorang dari kamu marah, maka 
    hendaklah dia berwuduk" - Hadis Riwayat Abi Daud.

3. Minum air
4. Berdiam Diri
5. Menyampaikan marah dengan positif, kawal suara, bertenang.
6. Beredar daripada tempat itu. Bawalah diri ke mana-mana sementara menunggu hati tu sejuk 
   balik.
7. Marilah berdoa dengan doa di bawah ini. Insya Allah hati jadi lebih tenang.